#35 – How Leaders Coach – Intro to The ABC Coaching Framework

Whether you manage employees, manage a household of children, or are trying to manage your own mind to get the results you want, great leaders know how to coach.

The second most impactful management discipline or manager must-do is to give feedback and coaching.

In Episode 16, we discussed how to give feedback, and now you’re ready to coach.

The ABC Coaching Framework is how effective leaders coach, and can be used in both self-coaching and with others.

A – Ask Questions

B – Brainstorm Options (To BEAR Up)

C – Commit


Topics Covered:

Intro to The ABC Coaching Framework

9:54: Learn what questions to ask – The top 5 W questions

Examples using the ABC Coaching Framework:

22:57 – Son asking for parental advice

29:12 – Employee asks for career advice

35:40 – Employee preparing a presentation for a big meeting

39:07 – Coaching how to make meetings more effective


For a more advanced version of the ABC Coaching Framework, the B in “Brainstorm Options” becomes “Brainstorm Options to BEAR Up,” and will be discussed in more detail in a follow-up episode. It incorporates using the BEAR model within the framework.

Reminder: Listen to Episode #5  (29 minutes) to discover the #1 most impactful management discipline or action you can take to immediately improve how you manage people and become the boss people want to work for by holding consistent, reoccurring one-on-ones or “O3” with each of your employees.

#18 – Emotional Puberty (Moving from Emotional Childhood To Emotional Adulthood)

It’s time we have the talk…you know, the one before you start going through emotional puberty. If you haven’t had “the talk” yet, you’re in for a ride.

Emotional childhood is when we are emotionally acting like a child.  It shows up when we don’t take responsibility for how we feel, or when we blame others for how we feel.

Emotional adulthood, on the other hand, is all about taking full responsibility.  We take responsibility for our own emotions – happiness, sadness… 

Don’t worry, I was a late bloomer physically and also in learning about this emotionally, so you’re in good company if you haven’t heard about this before.

But that’s no excuse to not listen to it now. It’s time for all of us to become emotional adults.

#16 – 5 Steps To Give Feedback – Part 1 of the 2nd Most Impactful Management Discipline

In Episode #5 we shared that the #1 most impactful action you can take to immediately improve how you manage people and become the boss people want to work for is to hold at least a 30-minute weekly one-on-one or “O3” with each of your employees.

Now, we’re sharing the second most important discipline…giving feedback and coaching.

Topics covered:

  1. Why give feedback and coach
  2. What are the differences between feedback versus coaching
  3. How and when to give feedback

5 Steps To Give Feedback:

  1. Describe what happened (“I’ve noticed”…from your “video check”)
  2. Describe your perception of the impact (why it matters)
  3. Check for understanding and listen
  4. Clarify next steps
  5. Follow up on the agreed action
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